I think that is the name of some movie but this post is not about that.
This post is about confused people. Confused lovers, actually. 'On and off' relationships as they are called. Sometimes sweethearts, sometimes strangers, and only they know which stage they are in at any given point of time.
I have witnessed it happening in a few friends' lives and I feel amazed by how they handle the whole uncertainty about their so-called 'relationship'. They seem to get so used to breaking up and patching up over and over again that it becomes a routine and really doesn't matter.
There's a whole drama of repeatedly deleting and re-adding each other on their Facebook lists, as if that makes any difference. And a melodrama about finally making it work 'this time around'.
Paulo Coelho writes in one of his books: "Everything that happens once can never happen again. But everything that happens twice will surely happen a third time." I think this has a lot of truth in it, and would like to add that anything which happens thrice keeps happening over and over again. Which is the case with 'on and off' relationships. If someone can ditch you thrice, I really don't know how you can give the person a fourth chance to once again dump you. It seems like sheer stupidity.
But then again, perhaps love is supposed to be stupid. Perhaps I am no one to judge how many times people delete and add the same person on their Facebook lists and their lives. Perhaps they just have a lot of time to spare for the ridiculous exercise! And perhaps there is even an element of fun in the whole 'kabhi haan, kabhi naa' (sometimes yes, sometimes no) game which I am totally overlooking. After all, life is an adventure, and perhaps there's nothing like the excitement of not knowing when someone is going to walk out/walk back into your world! Besides, when you are in the 'off' stage, you are always free to flirt and hook up with other people, which kind of gives you the best of both worlds - casual flings AND commitment. Talk about having your cake and eating it too, right? :P
Blah, Whatever!
This post is about confused people. Confused lovers, actually. 'On and off' relationships as they are called. Sometimes sweethearts, sometimes strangers, and only they know which stage they are in at any given point of time.
I have witnessed it happening in a few friends' lives and I feel amazed by how they handle the whole uncertainty about their so-called 'relationship'. They seem to get so used to breaking up and patching up over and over again that it becomes a routine and really doesn't matter.
There's a whole drama of repeatedly deleting and re-adding each other on their Facebook lists, as if that makes any difference. And a melodrama about finally making it work 'this time around'.
Paulo Coelho writes in one of his books: "Everything that happens once can never happen again. But everything that happens twice will surely happen a third time." I think this has a lot of truth in it, and would like to add that anything which happens thrice keeps happening over and over again. Which is the case with 'on and off' relationships. If someone can ditch you thrice, I really don't know how you can give the person a fourth chance to once again dump you. It seems like sheer stupidity.
But then again, perhaps love is supposed to be stupid. Perhaps I am no one to judge how many times people delete and add the same person on their Facebook lists and their lives. Perhaps they just have a lot of time to spare for the ridiculous exercise! And perhaps there is even an element of fun in the whole 'kabhi haan, kabhi naa' (sometimes yes, sometimes no) game which I am totally overlooking. After all, life is an adventure, and perhaps there's nothing like the excitement of not knowing when someone is going to walk out/walk back into your world! Besides, when you are in the 'off' stage, you are always free to flirt and hook up with other people, which kind of gives you the best of both worlds - casual flings AND commitment. Talk about having your cake and eating it too, right? :P
Blah, Whatever!
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I think Paulo Coelho is right. Why didn't I ever realise that..
"If someone can ditch you thrice, I really don't know how you can give the person a fourth chance to once again dump you"
True..
It happens with most youngsters, I think they are not sure of their choice. Nicely written...And, as they say love is blind!
was a fun read for sure :)
It is indeed this flip flop kind of relationship that must be helping them to get along. Even in a marriage, little fights are necessary to keep the spirits and fun alive.
Nice read.
Cheers,
Blasphemous Aesthete
hahahaha!! how do we know until we dont ourselves experience ;)
may be its actually fun!! :):D ;)
when u know, u know. when u dont, u really seriously dont i guess :)
Mehak,
Well you have too much perhaps in your opinions and they are interesting too.
Love is more a social status or a publicity stunt these days and facebook is the camera... but I guess this lifestyle is a choice by people... no leave them and enjoy the insanity.
Keep Writing..
God Bless
" After all, life is an adventure, and perhaps there's
nothing like the excitement of not knowing when
someone is going to walk out/walk back into your
world! "
Yeah right.
" Besides, when you are in the 'off' stage, you
are always free to flirt and hook up with other
people, which kind of gives you the best of both
worlds - casual flings AND commitment. Talk about
having your cake and eating it too, right? :P "
Yeah right.
Love is not supposed to be stupid. It's like in that scene frm the movie "Ghost", in which Demi Moore n Patrick Swazye get their hands dirty while doing pottery together. U can shape love the way u want, but how u do it can either make it look beautiful or just plain ugly.
Or in your words : Stupid.
" And perhaps there is even an element of fun in the
whole 'kabhi haan, kabhi naa' (sometimes yes,
sometimes no) game which I am totally overlooking."
Trust me, u don't wanna go through that. It's hell. . .to say d least.
hey...it's been a while...how are you doing?
i have been a witness to an on and off relationship(thankfully not a part of)...and it simply amazes me how they are completely blinded to the obvious, that it's not gonna work...it seems they are trapped in a vicious circle...
loved the cartoon...gave the post a nice comic touch..
wow..beautifully written..i relaly wanted to write this one... and it happens to me so many times.. :( but as you said love is stupid :(
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